Do you ever have times when you think you know what’s best for someone? If they would only … dot dot dot … life would be better for them – and for you (of course). The struggles would disappear … poof … if they would only DO what you are telling/suggesting/encouraging them to do. I mean, how hard can it be? After all, you only want what’s best for them.
Ahhh, it doesn’t work, does it? Yes, we can share our thoughts and concerns and be encouraging. Sometimes it really is a responsibility to do so – and perhaps they have even asked for our input because they trust us and value our opinions.
One morning, during my meditation and journal time, I was wanting things better for someone. I had been sharing my opinion with them, and feeling like it was going … nowhere. Loving this person to pieces, I went into the quiet, gentle space in my heart. After a while, I heard a voice and saw a very clear image of an empty notebook, with me holding a beautiful feather pen. The voice said (I believe it was God), “You cannot write his story.” It took my breath away. The emotions that came where ones of clarity and relief. I am a character in his story, just as he is in mine. His choices create his adventures and the chapters in his life. My choices create mine. I’m not his creative writer – I’m not his director – he totally is. It was a relief, indeed – and it has helped me respond in a softer, compassionate way, not only with him, but everyone else.
Worry, judging, and attempts at controlling can make us very unhappy, even physically and emotionally sick if we’re really good at it. Listening, being attentive, letting go, (not always easy), trusting and loving are positive influences we flourish with. We enjoy and feel good being around positive people, don’t we? We let them into our life stories knowing it’s going to make a great chapter. It’s nice to think we are one of the characters in their story, too. One that is alive with the sharing of good fortune, a bit of mischief for good measure and kindness. If we’re lucky, they will continue to write us in, all the way to their very last chapter.
My encouragement to you:
Today, think about how you are writing your story and look at all the characters in it. It’s your story – you can edit however you choose. That’s exciting and challenging – editing often is. Every once in a while, if you’re quiet and listen, you may hear a voice whisper to you … helping you in ways you haven’t even imagined – yet!
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