It was a tough summer for our ‘Fambly’.
It was a summer of Love.
Both my folks were dying …
Let me share about our Mom …
Mom, Dad & The Big Kids
We, Fambly = Mom & Dad, 7 Siblings/Spouses/Significant Others/Children & Little Children, filled the consult room, waiting for the oncologist to talk with us and share Mom’s diagnosis. It was the day after Mother’s Day. Apprehension, faith and love were holding us together like a superglue. Mom had lung cancer. The wonderful oncologist, tenderly held Mom’s hands, looked her directly in the eyes, and said with her permission, Hospice would be contacted that day. It took our breath away.
Life is real.
In 2 months, she was gone.
Before she left … We sang to her, shared silly stories … maybe a secret or two. We painted our toenails with her. She had a dress to show us girls – she hoped wouldn’t be ‘too fancy’ for her funeral! The rosary was prayed. We cried. Lots and LOTS of tears. A Priest came to visit. Mom and my little brother, Jake, planned the music for her funeral – so special. (He was amazing singing through. it. all. Making Mom proud ’till the very end!!).
In the middle of the night, she left us. We were with her. Dad made it very clear he wanted to be with her at her last breath.
Everything became still.
Before we called the funeral home, we made a Fambly Circle. (Every night after supper, Mom would have us go around the table and say something we were thankful for.) In our circle of love for Mom, we each shared a story, or something we were grateful for, or got in trouble with/lesson learned – ’cause life is real with Mom. More tears, then laughter!! After we shared, we started singing some of her favorite songs – someone(s) got out their phones to get all the words right! We ended with Silent Night … the harmony so precious.
It was a silent, holy night …
We love you, Mom!
(She’s still dropping feathers to say ‘Hello’!)
With Love and a Grateful Heart,
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