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The Folks Have Died … Treasures and Stuff to Process

Whew.

With the passing of our folks, we were left with raw emotions, exhaustion and an estate needing to be dealt with.  A Fambly Circle was called by me, the new ‘Matriarch’.  My  eclectic bunch of siblings deemed me to be so, as the eldest and bossy sister.  Patrick had said, “We always do what you tell us to do, so why stop now!”

Thankfully, we had talked with Mom and Dad, and a couple of key roles were already in place before they passed.  Jake was executor and we as siblings, agreed to sell the house.  The folks had met our Realtor, Liz Timothy, early in the summer, and welcomed her insight and knowledge as to what was best to do for the successful sale – thus the shingles, mentioned in a previous blog.

Our first agreement in our Fambly Circle was to take. a. break.  We needed a time-out from everything – and create a new normal within our personal lives.  Hugs, kisses, tears, laughter and waves “Goodbye”, were exchanged as we departed en masse from the folks driveway.

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“The 7”  

Seven Siblings and Our Folks – Last Christmas Together With Them

A month or so later, we siblings only, “The 7”,  no spouses or significant others, gathered around the folks dining room table.  In honor of the folks, we started with a prayer (I think they were smiling all day long).  We took turns, eldest to youngest, stating one item at a time we wanted from the folks.  ‘Round and ’round we went, some of us bowing out after a few ’rounds … until there was silence and a sigh.  Amazing – no one wanted or had to have – something someone else had asked for.   (Gosh I love this bunch!)

We then put post-it-notes on our stuff – stopped – looked around and realized – we still had a CrAzY amount of stuff to deal with.

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We decided to do a Fambly Auction, with Jake printing up “Grandpa Bucks” in various denominations.  All the Fambly was invited from babies to big people.  Everyone got the same amount of $$ to bid with.  They could combine their $$ with others, if they were hot and heavy into a purchase.  EVERYTHING purchased, had to be hauled out of the house by the end of the weekend.  Including “The 7’s” earlier items.  Jake was the Auctioneer – he was a hoot!

One of my favorite memories – My grandson Declan, was 6 years old.  He had been seriously watching and observing how this ‘bidding game’ was being played.  After a bit, Jake gave a great presentation on the giant tv console in the living room.  Declan piped up, “$10!”.  Jake said, “We’ve got $10 from Declan, do we have $15?”.  Declan yelled “$15!” (He really wanted it!)  Jake smoothed it over and asked for another bid from everyone – once – silence – twice – silence – three times – silence.  “SOLD to Declan for $10!”, declared Jake.  Everyone cheered, Declan jumped up and down, clapping his hands.  “I got it, I really, really got it!!” Jake swept his hands over the TV in the console with a flourish, “This TV, which you can see, fits perfectly inside this beautiful console, Declan just bought.  I’m asking for a bid of $5 … does anyone have a bid?”  There was silence.  “Declan, do you have a bid?”, asked Jake.  “$5!!!”, Declan said with excitement.  “SOLD to DECLAN! for $5”, yelled Jake.  Again, there were cheers from the crazy Fambly crowd!!!!

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After the auction … and helping each other load trailers, vans and trucks, we set a date and agreed to get back together again, as there was still – stuff.  Not as much, but still .. lots and lots of stuff.

Our final clearing was done.  I was grateful to my niece, Nicky, who took care of Mom’s closet.  Many donations to various organizations.  Mom had numerous  books from a Catholic Book Store she once owned, Hosanna House, in downtown Brainerd.  My sister, Kyung, and William, took them all to St. Francis School and donated them to their library.  Rick had a trailer that hauled things to the landfill and things everywhere else.  That felt good!

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The hardest thing for me, when we began this process, was the beginning to do it.  My beginning to do it, was taking one of Mom’s magnets off the refrigerator.  I began to cry.  That was it for that day.  One magnet.  I left and walked across the yard, home.

Now … The house was empty except for a few things for staging. (Sigh)  We cleaned it up and had a showing.  It looked ‘dated’ was the comment from a potential buyer.  Mom liked wallpaper.  Mom liked being creative with how she hung wallpaper.  Mom liked wallpaper alot.  Colors needed to go – so did the wallpaper.  I stripped wallpaper like crazy.  Then, started to paint.  My brother, Patrick came and helped me paint … it was sad, but felt good.

The house was being filled with new light and open to new life.

…. And Sold!  Thanks, Liz!

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I love my Fambly.  We are an odd bunch, with various quirks, gifts and talents.  Love is the thread that weaves us together, holding frayed edges in place, circling together when it’s time to play or work or grieve.

My encouragement to you … Take your time when you lose someone(s).  Feel your emotions.  Be sad.  Angry.  Afraid.  Lonely.  Let them come out, don’t stuff them.  You will get waves of emotions and memories popping up unexpectedly.  It’s part of the grieving.  There is no time-line for grieving.  Take breaks.  Breathe different air.  Surround yourself with softness, kindness, understanding, forgiveness and most of all Love.  Be with people.  Be alone.  Ask for help.  Drink water.  Lots and lots of water. More tears – more water.  Remember to breathe.  Remember to eat.  Sleep.  Walk.  Walking is good.  Go to church.  Don’t go to church.  Lean on people when you need to.  Be gentle with yourself.  In your gentleness,  in your quiet time, peace will come.  In time.  God does not leave.

Thank you for sharing this walk with me. Wow, it continues to be a journey.

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“Skippy” … A Soul Connection

 

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I’m sharing stories I’ve personally experienced with connections to Spirit and the affirmations they bring into my life and the lives of clients.  In doing so, I hope you recognize ways God/Spirit is connecting with you.  Little signs of intuition, a premonition, a whisper or a nudge, a sign of synchronicity, a dream … there are many ways we are shown signs that can protect us, reassure us, or bring us peace.

I understand – ‘Oh, that’s just your imagination!’, ‘Don’t go there ….’, ‘Are you kidding me?’!  I’ve thought those things, too.  Over the years, these connections have become a part of my life.  Sometimes, a part of someone else’s life ….

Skippy …

Before a client comes, I settle into quiet meditation/prayer.  It helps me bring into greater awareness of Spirit/God and the client coming in.  One early afternoon, after centering/quiet time with a client, I began my energy session with her on the massage table.  I had barely started, and in my mind’s eye, there was a smallish brown mutt of a dog that was jumping on my leg and then jumping and skipping around the table – one energetic little mutt, for sure.  Sometimes, he jumped high enough to reach the top of the massage table – and did his best to distract me.  I was just beginning to be brave enough to share things I ‘saw’ with clients – but that day, I wasn’t brave enough and didn’t say anything to her about it.  We finished our time together and she left.

A few weeks later, she came in for another session.  Guess what?  The little brown mutt of a dog was back.  I knew from the last time, this little guy was going to be persistent.  It was obvious, he wanted to be seen AND acknowledged.  I took a breath, and told my client I had something to share with her and she could take it or leave it – no worries there!  Then I told her about this little brown mutt of a dog, skipping around the table like crazy.  She burst into tears.  She shared her story – a bit of it summed up here – When she was a little girl growing up, she had a little brown mutt.  They loved each other to pieces.  That dog went with her, everywhere.  He listened to her stories, he knew her friends and family, he knew her secrets, he knew her best of anyone.  He was her faithful companion, indeed.  And …

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… His name was Skippy.

I laughed out loud!  Skippy – of course!!

She was so happy to know he was there with her.  For the rest of the session, Skippy sat calmly on the floor.  No more jumping and skipping around.  There was just a wonderful sense of contentment and quiet joy – for both of them.

Skippy never made his presence known to me after that.  And, it’s ok.  It was the first time an animal had ‘come through’ for me.  I’m so grateful, I threw fear out the window. It was important I shared seeing Skippy with my client.

It was a gift for all 3 of us.

Skippy was a Soul Connection for her.  Yes, he is her dog.  And, it’s ok …

Spirit/God doesn’t limit love and connections with only people!

As I’ve shared in the past, stories connect us, and help us realize how amazing life is on so many levels.  You may get nudges, or hear the whispers of Spirit/God, you may not.  I don’t know when/if I will get insight, or a word, or image on any given day, week, month. It’s ok.  We’re all here, sharing the journey … quirky and amazing as it is!

Blessings and Love,

Namaste

Debbie

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Chattering Voices … Soul Connections

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Me at 5 years old.

I was 5, when I experienced a time of ‘Chattering Voices’.  I thought everyone could hear these ‘Chattering Voices’, and they just ignored them … so I tried to do the same.  They talked so fast and their sounds weren’t like our words.  Sometimes it was like a bunch of humming in different tones and pitches.  The ‘Chattering Voices’ were jumbled up and it seemed like so many voices wanted to talk to me at the same time.  I couldn’t see them, but I could feel the presence of them.  They didn’t chatter all the time, nor did they deter me from play or chores. I wasn’t awakened at night, although sometimes it was hard to fall asleep, if it was a night they decided to chatter!  I never knew what triggered them to chatter, and I was never fearful or irritated by them … they just were around.

One day, I remember playing with my dolls on the kitchen floor, while Mom was ironing.  It was a Monday or a Thursday, ’cause those were wash and iron days.  The ‘Chattering Voices’ had gotten louder and more intense, and I seriously couldn’t make out a word.  I looked up at Mom and asked her, “Do you know what they are saying?  I can’t understand them!”  She looked at me surprised and asked what I was talking about.  “The voices … can’t you hear them?”  I was taken off-guard … she couldn’t hear them??  She was taken aback, too, I think.  Very, VERY firmly and LOUD, she told me there were NO VOICES, it was all in my head and to tell them to go away FOREVER.  She was pretty upset.

THAT scared me!  It was around the time I was beginning to go to catechism, and the devil and hell and fear had definitely entered my world.  Never did I have the sense the ‘Chattering Voices’ were a bad thing, or scary.  Besides, I had my Guardian Angels and they protected me from any bad stuff.

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Non-the-less …

The ‘Chattering Voices’ were gone.

Looking back …

I think they could have been/were Souls who have crossed over and wanted to connect.  They were just too eager in getting through to me and I couldn’t decipher all those voices coming through at one time … and I was only 5 years old, for goodness sake!!  Yes, children are more open than grown-ups to sense energies and I realized …

It was a ‘heads-up’.

Now they do.

Sometimes.

And one at a time!

No more ‘Chattering Voices’.  I still don’t know what triggers a Spirit/Soul/Angel to come in. That’s ok.  When they do … Sometimes, it’s a word.  A letter.  Sometimes, an image.  Sometimes a sound.  A feather.  A dime or quarter.  A song.  A pet.  A name.  Sometimes through another person.  Sometimes in meditation, sometimes in a session with a client, sometimes in the shower.  Random at best.

Let me share a story …

I was working with a client, beginning the session with quiet time, centering prayer and healing energy (the best way to start!).  After a few minutes, I saw with my mind’s eye,  the letter ‘M’, in a beautiful cursive font.  The feeling I had, was deep love, so I mentioned this beautiful ‘M’, to my client.  Her eyes teared up and she said it was her mother-in-law who had passed.  They had a very close relationship.  ‘M’ was known for her flowing penmanship!  I then saw ‘M’ looking out a kitchen window to the backyard, where a swing set was and kids were playing.  My client smiled – yes – ‘M’ would often watch the kids play out her kitchen window and yes – there was a swing set, too!  It was a special affirmation of love for my client to know, her mother-in-law was still close by … and keeping an eye on grandchildren!  It was a lovely Soul Connection.

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‘Chattering Voices’ became Soul Connections for me. I can only speak for myself and my experiences.  One suggestion … If your child is seeing invisible people, or having conversations in an empty room, or ask if you hear voices … engage in conversation with them.  Ask them to describe what or who they see. What do they hear?  How do they feel?  Interest and trying to understand, lessens fear.  And they may share something amazing. It’s real for them.  If they are shut down, they may think they’ve done something wrong, or become fearful.  Wrap them in love.

Do you have Soul Connections, too?  I think many of us do …

Wishing You Blessings and Love,

Namaste

Debbie

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Premonitions/Intuition … Whispers of Spirit

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I was 14 years old when I had my first experience with premonitions or huge intuitive insight.  I remember the exact moment it happened.  I was playing on a hill by the lakeside with my little sister, Anna.  I remember the bump in the hill, the dress and sweater she was wearing and her laughter.  She was 20 months old, and after 4 brothers … it was such joy to have a little sister!  In a flash there was a knowing … she was going to drown … and the flash was gone.  Her smiling face and twinkling eyes at that moment, are embedded in my heart forever.  It scared me.  I held her close.  It was not going to happen – I was going to make sure she would always be safe.  We were mindful of living on the lake and would give a shout out to Mom – “Heading down to the lake!”  “Heading to the dock!”  “Tossing a line out – gonna catch some sunnies!”  “Going to jump in and cool off!”  It was part of lake life, keeping in touch with heading down to the lake.

Anna did drown.  Less than a month later.  No matter how attentive I was, how I watched her like a hawk … it didn’t matter, she was gone.  The pain felt, was devastating.  Even writing this … all the emotions, the smells, the air, the sounds of wailing, come back in an instant.  I felt responsible.  No matter the compassion and understanding my folks gave me, trying to explain it was an accident, nobody’s fault – no blame.  I loved my folks for that, although it took a long time for me to see it their way.

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What I came to realize … is there is a bigger plan.  Anna’s plan was 20 months.  Pure joy and love given to all of us.  Then, because of Anna dying,  our sister, Kyung, came into our lives.  We adopted her from Korea at nearly one year of age, with the last of the siblings, little brother Jake, born a month later.  Here I share a bit about the amazing woman she is!

What I believe about premonitions and intuition … For me, they are a way for Spirit/God to give me a ‘heads-up’.  I think subconsciously, having this premonition or intuitive insight, helped me to survive.  It has also let me know, there are only certain things in life we have control over.  I did not have control over Anna dying.  I only have control over how I choose to see this event – her life – in my life.  I choose to see her as a gift.  And her gift to us … Kyung!

I am open to the ‘heads-up’, quiet knowing Spirit/God is willing to share with me.  Sometimes, it is fun … I’ll share more next time!

As an Energy Worker, the 6th Chakra is your Intuition, the center of your forehead sometimes referred to as your 3rd Eye, your 6th Sense.  Meditation, prayer, listening is a way to hear the “Whispers of Spirit/God”, guiding  and supporting you in love …

What have been some premonitions or intuitive knowings you have experienced?

Wishing you gentle ‘Whispers of Spirit’.

Namaste

Debbie

www.debendres.com

 

That Odd Little Word … Chakra!

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Wheels of Energy Throughout Our Body

In my last blog, I shared how I came to be an Energy Worker, and talked about wheels of energy called Chakras flowing (or not) in our bodies.  I realized, when I first heard about Chakras, I was taken aback because it came from ancient Hindu, Buddhism and Taoism wisdom and teachings …  Far removed from my upbringing as a Catholic and very foreign to me.  Sometimes, we fear what we don’t understand, and sometimes we’re told it’s wrong to delve into things that don’t fit into the line of particular religious teachings.  In that respect, my limited understanding is – it opens the door for evil to enter – it is not ‘Of God’ – ‘The bible says …’ – ‘The catechism says …’.  All shared in good faith and protection of one’s soul – and I have had my share of comments, concerns and anonymous letters to protect my soul and save me from the perils of hell.  I understand where these kind souls are coming from … and it’s ok.

We are each responsible for our own walk in life.  My walk has led me, through my quiet meditation time with God/Spirit, to an awareness of these energy centers, called Chakras.  I feel them, sense them in myself and in others.

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Our bodies are filled with energy – everything miraculously working together to carry us and our Spirit through life.  Besides our bodies, we have thoughts, emotions and the Spiritual part of ourselves, that make up our whole “Being”.  All of this is energy.  It’s ebbing and flowing every minute of every day.  We can sense when someone comes into a room, we can often sense the mood they are in.  No words needed.  We feel their energy.  When someone leaves, or company goes home after a gathering, or someone dies, we feel the emptiness.  When someone is suffering, we can often feel their pain – and they may be miles away.  It is their energy.  We send them good thoughts, we send them prayers, we send good vibes, we hold them in our hearts.  This is energy flowing between us.  Soul connections.  Heart connections.  Spirit connections.  For me it’s God who’s got this all going.  Divine.  Sacred.  Universal.  Miraculous.  Precious.  Love.  Along with … Pain.  Suffering.  Loss.  Fear.  Anger. Control.  Mistakes.  Forgiveness.  And more Love.  All of this carries energy.  Lots and lots of energy.

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Sometimes energy flows and sometimes it gets stuck.  When energy gets stuck, we don’t feel well, do we?  The stuck energy can affect any one of our organs, how we breathe, how we sleep, and how we communicate with others.  We can feel grounded, safe, secure, or float-y, not able to trust or focus.  We can feel creative or blah,  confident or insecure – not able/or willing to trust our gut.  We can love and receive love, or close ourselves off from love, because we don’t want to be hurt.  We can speak our truth – or not – for fear of what others might feel, think, or say about us, or to us.  We might have flashes of intuition, where we just understand something with no need for conscious explanations, simply, a quiet knowing.  We’re open – or not – to Spirit/God and the support and guidance we are given as we walk this path called Life.  This …. all of this … is energy.  Impacting our Chakras.  Not scary.  Just real Life.  We live with these ebb and flow energies every day.  In our own unique ways.  Because that’s how we roll, we were created as individuals and no one walks our path but us.  This is the energy I work with my clients = Life.

Wisdom is wisdom.  It carries Truth through time.  Past, present and future, wisdom is supportive and thought provoking.  Wisdom came with creation – call it ancient – and will follow us through the end of time.  I look at the goodness it brings, the support it provides and the lessons it teaches.  I am grateful I was open to the confirmation I was feeling with my clients and their energies – and the link and understanding of the 7 Charkas.   I’m glad I listened to God/Spirit and was brave enough to walk through that door!  The blessings that have unfolded over the years, are countless.

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Here’s my sense of the 7 basic Chakras – Energy Centers in your body and the wisdom carried with them.  I’m not going into details with this … this is a blog, not a book!!  ; )

  1. Root Chakra – base of your spine – supports your basic needs – food, clothing, shelter – security, trust and stability. Color/Red
  2. Sacral – below your belly button and above your pubic bone – sexuality and creative expression.  Color/Orange.
  3. Solar Plexus – stomach – personal power – trusting your gut.  Color/Yellow
  4.  Heart – bridges our body with our mind, emotions and Spirit.  It’s our love and the connections we have with each other and a conduit to healing.  Color/Green
  5. Throat – communicating and speaking our Truth.  Color/Blue/Turquoise.
  6. 3rd Eye – Center of forehead.  Intuition/Awareness.  Color/Indigo Blue
  7. Crown – Top of head.  Spiritual Connection to God, ourselves and others.  Color/Purple

I like pictures … so here you go!  Sitting, standing, walking, skipping, sleeping … you don’t need to be sitting yogi style to recognize the energy of Chakras in your body!

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The beauty of you.  The beauty of all of us.

We all want to trust – ourselves and others.  We are sexual beings with creative juices running.  We practice the wisdom Life teaches us, and trust our gut to keep us from making a wrong move.  We desire love, give love, share love and with love, there is healing.  We communicate in many ways, trying our best to speak our truth.  Intuition is a gift – we all have – it’s trusting and practicing it!  Spirituality is our blanket, encompassing our Being while we’re here on earth, listening to the wisdom, affirmation and guidance God gives us and receiving all embracing Love.

People have asked about being Catholic – I’m not a practicing Catholic, any more.  I’m grateful for the foundation and faith I have because of being raised Catholic.  Honestly, I’m not playing within their many rules, so it’s best to be me … and continue my walk with the Love, compassion and faith I share, knowing God is present – always.  For those concerned about my eternal well-being … I’ve nearly died, and through that time, there was clarity and peace.  I know, no matter what, it’s all ok … God’s love and being true to who I am, while I’m still here … is what matters!

And so … I continue to enjoy my clients, my time with them, and the wonderful things that unfold.  If you feel off-kilter, seek a recommended Energy Worker in your area.  Personal references are the best.  Trust your gut when meeting someone new, if you are not comfortable with them, it’s ok to say so and leave. (Really – this is for ANY situation in life!!)

Thank you for following along with me!  I hope you have a better understanding about Chakras and Energy.  Until next time …  Wishing you peace and joy.

Namaste

Debbie

www.debendres.com

How I came to be an Energy Worker

 

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The power of touch …

Cultivating Quiet Healing From Within Since 1990

I remember, nearly 30 years ago, when I was going through Massage School … the teacher had spent some of our class time talking about energy and Chakras.  I was fine with all we had been learning and training and practicing on, until this odd word and topic came up.  Chakra origin is from from Sanskrit meaning  ‘wheel or circle’.   We have 7 main wheels or circles of energy in our bodies (Chakras) – from the base of our spine to the top/crown of our head.  Mind you, I came from a strict, traditional Roman Catholic upbringing, and anything to do with ancient traditions from the Hindu Religion, Chinese Taoism and Buddhism was strictly taboo.  I made up my mind, I would leave all the Chakra stuff behind and focus entirely on the bodywork of massage therapy.

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Back then, people still thought of massage therapy in more of the ‘flashing red light’ mentality.  Oh my … that led to some interesting encounters!   I spent the first 3 years of my practice educating clients on the benefits of therapeutic massage to help with stress management, pain management, increased flexibility and boosting their immune systems.

I was/am highly empathetic and can feel pain clients are experiencing.  In the quiet time working with them, I was becoming very much aware of the heat that would flow through my hands, and at times, there would be a feeling of something ‘blocked’ with their body.  I would spend focused time (and prayer … Catholic girl, remember), on the blocked area, hands hot with heat … and there would be a shift – and the block was gone.  I would ask clients what what happening in their life.  I was aware of the physical part of them, and also gave focus to their thoughts, emotions, and Spiritual well-being.  There seemed to be connections with the energy they had flowing or blocked and what I was feeling.

I was beginning to notice nudges – intuition – whispers of Spirit/God – dreams – to ‘pay attention’.  Circles and wheels.  Circles and wheels.  Then it clicked: Chakras.

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Hmmmm ….

I realized I was being led to look deeper into the ancient wisdom of these energy wheels in our bodies.  I was also realizing God as I knew God to be, was bigger than any box I could dream of … and the lid to that box was blown off … up into the Universe somewhere.  I was opening my heart and Spirit to what ancient wisdom had to say about energy, circles, wheels, health, balance, flow … body, mind and Spirit.

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And when I did – everything clicked!  Chakras made sense to me.  They affirmed the awareness I was experiencing with clients.  The energy we have in our bodies is miraculous.  It helps me with the energy work I now do with clients.  The power of compassionate, loving touch, brings peace.  The questions I may ask, or the clarification I may offer, is in tune with what I am picking up with their energies – their Chakras.

And … I still pray and God is still present!  I keep listening to the whispers of Spirit/God and do my best to ‘pay attention’!  I’m grateful for the continued blessings clients receive and the energies of peace and love that follow them out the door.

With a Grateful Heart,

Namaste

Debbie

www.debendres.com

 

 

Self-Care Helpers & Love

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We’re coming into the month of February – the month of LOVE.

As shared on my Facebook Page, touch, self-care and loving kindness for ourselves, is often difficult to embrace. Guilt, time and money can often play into the scenario.

A few years back, my friend, Becky Flansburg, introduced me to February as being a Goddess Month, focusing on all the lovely things we can do to embrace, love and honor the incredible women we ARE.  Isn’t it a great idea?!

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As one of my goals in 2019 is self-care, I’m boosting up ways to show that love to myself … and be willing to ask for – and receive that loving kindness.

I am receiving regular Chiropractic Care from Dr. Jim Davis.  He has helped me immensely with my low back healing, after my L5 decided to wake me up last fall.  Great Chiropractor!  Now, I go in for maintenance – no low back pain!!

My friend, Pam, is a great reflexologist and does Reiki.  When she had offered to work on me, I was nervous, but mostly excited.  Nervous, because I didn’t know how I was going to sit anywhere for more than 5 minutes without pain in my low back.  Low and behold … she had an anti-gravity chair!  I was amazed and ever-so-grateful.  I floated in peace, while receiving my treatment.  The skill, energy and love she poured into me was so healing.  I continue to see her on a regular basis.  Because of her, I realized I could also use an anti-gravity chair for my clients, (no bending for my back), and it opened a new door of nurturing for my clients and me!

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My Anti-Gravity Chair

In my previous post, I had mentioned seeing a skilled, new acupuncturist in our Brainerd Lakes Area.  I had my first treatment with Julienne Gienger, LAC at Better Days Acupuncture, last week.  After listening, and tuning into the various heart rates w/organs in my body.  She knew exactly what the first focus of treatment was needed for me.  I don’t like needles.  So, for those of you who don’t either … the needles are so fine, you barely feel them, if at all.  AND you are flat on your back, so worries about fainting!! I didn’t count the number of needles she put in.  I focused on the music and my breathing, and let her do her energy work.  I appreciated the spot-on insight she gave to me – physically and emotionally, with regards to the steps of treatment.  She also included cupping, helping with blood flow, inflammation … and feels like a deep tissue massage.  To understand, it’s better for you to watch this video of her, done by Dan Hegstad.  (His business, Easy Street Productions, will help your business grow!)  I have my next treatment in a couple of weeks, and really look forward to it.

These are the self-care pieces of love I’m giving to myself on a regular basis.  If you live in the Brainerd Lakes Area, and are interested in what Dr. Jim, Pam or Julienne’ can do for you, I encourage you to contact them.

They are my Self-Care Helpers!

Sharing the Love …

Namaste,

Debbie