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Dreaming BIG … Trusting Spirit

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Trusting Spirit!

I’ve shared with friends … I don’t feel brave.  I’ve struggled with ‘What will people think of me?’  Fear is a mighty force in life.  I’ve found Faith and Trust overcome that mighty force – and when it all comes down to it, it’s between me and God, anyway – and I’m good with that.  When I dream … when I answer the nudges of Spirit/God and let go of fear – amazing things happen.  I bet they have for you, too.

3 of My Dreams and How They Came to BE …

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After working for years providing massage therapy at a Chiropractor’s office, I began to have that feeling again – I call them ‘quiet knowings’ – my intuition, in my stomach.  The feeling was doing MORE with Energy Work – of all kinds.  Reiki, Essential Oils, T’ai Chi, Chinese Medicine and Acupuncture, Massage, Readings, Counseling. I wanted to have classes, and gather people together with the realization they are not alone in their seeking.  My dream was bringing talented, gifted people together and provide our community with amazing alternative, complimentary options for health and wellness.

So, to have a dream come true – you have to let go of fear.  (Gulp – so many reasons why this wouldn’t work – single mom, single income, who would even want to be a part of this crazy idea, in a pretty conservative area). You have to do the work, with dreams … knock on doors, pen to paper, gather information and see if it really is a path Spirit/God is leading you on.  I did lots of work with the Small Business Development Center at Central Lakes College.  Julie Anderholm had told me, the work would let me know if the numbers added up to any kind of success as a business.

It did.

Yikes!  Fear … breathe … trust … BREATHE.

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A bank supported me and now it was finding a location within the right business district.  For weeks, I drove up and down Kingwood Street, feeling like it just had to be on this street – somewhere.  (I finally quit driving up and down the street, thinking someone may report a stalking vehicle).

One day, client came in for a massage, and looking up at me, with a twinkle in her eye,  she asked me if I knew what house was for sale?! – No – was my answer.  She said there was a house next door to her – on Kingwood Street – and it was just listed that day!  I went to see it the minute our session was finished.

Me, not good at negotiating – that evening – offered a bit more than the listing price and without anyone else coming with me – went through the house.  I felt its energy and I loved it.

Naive?  No kidding!!  Learn from me, ok?!  It never hurts to have a second pair of eyes and a brain for thinking things through …

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The next day the Realtor called and said there was another party coming to look at the house – 3 Doctors – to make it a clinic.  Plan on a bidding war – he said.  I was confused, as I had thought my offer was accepted.  I told him I was out.  I didn’t want that kind of energy in the mix of my dream.  He called me back in a day or so and said the Doctors thought it would be too much work to make it happen.  Hmmm.  Interesting comparison. Me, single Mom, single income, being me.  3 Doctors – money – resources – too much work!  Well, you know this by now … I bought the Kingwood House – ghosts and all – but that’s another story for another time!  (A good one, too.)

On a side note – Dr. Starzinski was one of the doctors looking at the house.  Soon after, he joined us with his practice.  How wonderful it was!

A Dream Come True!  Front page news … Here’s a bit of it …

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Dream.  Work it.  Trust Spirit/God to open doors if it is to be …  Many lives were touched  when crossing the threshold of this amazing house.

Then the financial crash of 2008 happened.  I did all I could to keep the doors open.  No one had discretionary income.  Self-care was put at the bottom of the list – basic needs were at the top.  The stress and angst of letting go, impacting my colleagues and our clients, was devastating. The house was sold in a short-sale in 2011, with my Realtor, Liz Timothy. 

Something else was happening in the mix of all of this … I had a ‘quiet knowing’ … something else was up … Spirit/God was giving me a ‘heads-up’ …. I just didn’t know what ….

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Dream 2 ….

After the selling of the Kingwood house, I needed a place to live.  I was very clear in asking Spirit/God/Universe to provide me exactly what I wanted – and if they wanted to embellish it at all, for a greater good – I was ok with that, too!

My Dream … My Exact Wish ….

  1. A One bedroom apartment, just for me.  No up-keep.  If the faucets leaked, call the landlord, if anything leaked, call the landlord.  I was tired.
  2. I wanted it to face east-west, for morning sun and evening sunsets.
  3. I needed laundry close-by, because of all the massage sheets I washed.
  4. A garage.
  5.  And this much for rent $ _____!  Yikes!

I called an old classmate who did rentals and yes, he had a few open in the next month.  We set up a time to look … (I hadn’t shared my list yet).  Oh my, none of them worked for me.

… Breathe ….

We were out in the parking lot, ready to go, and he asked me what I really wanted … so … I told him!  Exactly!

He shook his head at me and grinned.  (Well, he ASKED!!)

He said I wasn’t going to believe it … (Try me) …

A one bedroom, east-west, laundry room out the door to the left, with a garage, was going to open at the end of the week.  Yes, for $____! (Who’s smiling now!!)

AND he let me paint it the colors I wanted, so my book club gals came over and we had a painting party!  (Bonus Blessing:  I found an office only a mile down the road.)

I gave a shout-out to friends and Fambly to help me move.  When the doorbell rang early moving day, there stood my brother, Patrick and wife, Darlene up from the cities to help … they said to look outside!  There, on both sides of the street were friends with trucks, cars, trailers, even an ambulance to haul stuff to my new office and apartment. (We did it all in one trip!!)  Some friends had met at apartment with food to feed the gang.  I was teary and grateful all.day.long.

That’s not the end of the story.

That ‘quiet knowing’ … something was up … when I had to sell the Kingwood House …

I got my answer. 

My folks lived across the yard from my apartment.  Mom helped me clean.  She made cottage curtains for the living room.  I’d go over for coffee and they would mention how late I was up the night before (my bedroom window faced theirs!)

And they both would be gone a year later.

I needed the ease and grace to be there for them as they journeyed their way to heaven – and Spirit/God gifted me with the perfect apartment, in the perfect location to do so.

A dream come true!

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Sleepovers and play-dates were fun memories in my apartment!

I’ll save my Dream #3 for the next post, this is getting long.  Are you still with me?

#3 Dream … It’s pretty awesome.

My encouragement to you:

Dream Big.  Let go of fear.  Let go of what people will think of you. Breathe. Trust the journey.  The right answers will show up.  Do the work.  Ask Spirit/God/Universe for what you want … and then get ready for the unfolding …  and the blessings.

Thank you for sharing this walk with me.  If you have enjoyed this post, please like and share it with others!

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I’m “Allowing” 2019 To Be …

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Filled with more ease …

Less trying to make things work.  (It can be exhausting and when it doesn’t work out the way I planned, disappointment sets in. Allowing is a gentle way of letting go of control.)  I’m going to do my best with intentions and actions and allow all to unfold for my highest good.  Yes, there will be lessons to learn!  It’s ok, as some of those lessons will be life adventures and surprises … I wonder what they will be?!

In 2019 I will Allow …

… More time for PLAY.  Getting out with friends, making new friends, allowing time in my day/week to spend time with people who fill me up, share their wisdom and enjoy moments together.  Things like theater, art, music, heart to heart conversations, sharing meals out and meals in, laughter and tears.  Walks and talks.

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… My heart to be open to DATING.  That goes along with PLAY, I think, plus perfect order and Divine timing!

… I will allow ART in more minutes = hours – and the creative process it brings through Spirit.

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… My PASSION WITH CLIENTS to continue growing and unfolding, bringing to them (and me), healing, compassion, spiritual growth, wisdom, Truth, love and light.

… Time for NURTURING SELF-CARE.  Schedule regular massages (Check/DONE! Yay!) and Chiropractic adjustments.  Look into acupuncture @ Better Days Acupuncture in Brainerd.  I hear Julienne’ Gienger, LAC is amazing.  Plus the simple things … like gentle morning stretches, qigong, walks and talks, hikes and exploring.  Nature is very nurturing to me.

… Continued MORNING MEDITATION AND JOURNAL time.  I call it my “Morning coffee with God”.  No matter what – it keeps me grounded.

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… Enjoyable time WRITING on a regular basis.  Mostly, here, blogging, and Instagram.  If it isn’t enjoyable, nothing flows.  So allowing my brain to realize this time is filled with magical moments to see words unfold into something that can connect with others is magical, indeed.

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I find, over the years, choosing a Word of the Year has helped me create more in my life.  This year my hope is to create more ease – and trust Spirit/God, Angels and Guides will be right alongside me every minute of this New Year.

Do you have a word for 2019?  I’d love to hear what it is!

Happy New Year!

Blessings and Love,

Namaste

Debbie

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Here’s the Thing … Collage Wisdom Insight #1

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I find myself, among a number of friends … experiencing life change nudges.  Intuitively, we know something is coming.  I think it’s Spirit/God’s way of giving us a heads-up.  We sense a ‘Pay Attention‘ tap on the shoulder, bump/thump on the head, or in my case, L-5 putting me in a frozen, ‘now I’ve got your attention’, pose … because I chose not to listen to the quiet whispers, taps and thumps, mostly because of fear.  Fear of changing out a career (Certified Massage Therapist & Energy Worker for 28 years).  Loss of assured income.  Losing relationships.  Being my own boss.  I’m very good at taking care of everything.  Doing it all – whew.

It was interesting, when the pain was manageable, to note it was on my left side – energetically, the feminine side, the receiving side … being vulnerable, asking for help, nurturing me, being soft and gentle.  Quiet reflection, led me to acknowledge, my taking care of everything and doing it all (male energy/right side) was overpowering, leading to my life not being in balance.  My soft, gentle side, needed me to stop doing massage work.  (Deep breath … breathe ….) Now … it was taking time to process this part of my life.  This time of change.  I decided to create a collage to help me approach things that were coming through with meditation and journaling.

I call it Collage Wisdom!

Old ways won’t open new doors.  It’s true.  Life is filled with opportunities.  It’s opening new ways of thinking … yes, new thoughts are necessary! Any age, any decade!  Time to allow dreams to filter in … What if ____ ?? How about ___ ?? It is time to admit: We know stuff. (Thank you, Janice!).  We are a mixed bag of talents.  We are not one dimensional. We are multi-dimensional and that can be what ever we choose it to be.  Yes, fear is involved.  So is bravery.  We become stronger because we are going through the fear and realize how flipping awesome we are.  Believe this with me!  Create a grand door, a cabin door, a gnome door, a magical door, a real-life door …  put your hand on the doorknob, I will too.  Let’s twist it open – ready, set, GO …

Today is a new day.

More to come!

Blessings and Love,

Namaste

Debbie

Guardian Angels

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Our Guardian Angels are always close by. Let’s start our week by acknowledging them and asking them to help us through the week … and then … paying attention to the signs and whispers they give us, as messengers from God.
It’s ok to ask for help and guidance … and a big part is trust. As many of you know … sometimes, I’m quite specific with my requests. One time, I had asked for an answer to a particular situation I was dealing with. This time, I didn’t ask for an ‘Please deliver it in black and white/’cause sometimes I need it that clear’ answer, but ‘flowers – by 5pm on Friday, if it’s for my highest good’ answer. (I never tell anyone about these requests, it’s between God and the Angels).
Guess what? Before Friday, a friend was stopping by. She knocked on the door holding one of the most beautiful bouquets of flowers I had ever seen. She said, ‘I know this sounds weird, but on my way over, it popped into my head to stop at a flower shop … I didn’t want to, because I knew it would make me late, but I ended up going around the block and back to the flower shop I had just driven by. Here. These are for you!” I cried. Yep, often I do – It was a beautiful answer to prayer. My friend was the messenger from God/Spirit/Angels. SHE listened. SHE followed through with the prompting. SHE delivered.
So, this week, I encourage you to be open to your Angels.  Ask.  Notice the signs. Trust.
Wishing you Blessings and Love,
Namaste
Debbie

Embracing Your Inner Goddess

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When I’m open to Spirit … wonderful things happen!  Sitting down one recent evening , a bit anxious with a new computer and grieving the loss of my trusty laptop … I breathed deeply a few times, put my hands to my heart and said to this sparkly new fangled computer … “Let’s be friends and see what flows”.  I am over the moon excited with what unfolded and asked a smart, witty, self proclaimed Goddess, Becky Flansburg to co-facilitate with me. (She said yes!)  Her story was one of the sown seeds of this creation … and maybe a bit of energy from the Super Blue Blood Moon.  Within 48 hours (24 was given to pause with intention, ask Spirit for a sign of confirmation before moving ahead … yes, that’s part of the story!), we had our venue confirmed at beautiful Prairie Bay and Sunday afternoon, February 25th is the day …

CelticGoddessLove“Where there is a woman, there is magic.”

 – Ntozake Shange

Embracing Your Inner Goddess

The Beauty of Who You Are
It’s all about you.
Looking within, knowing you are unique.
There is no mold to follow. You travel this journey on your own,
surrounded with loving Goddesses, each on their own path.

You are your own version of perfection.
You are a Woman of Beauty.  You are Divine.

This time is recognizing self-love and accepting ourselves as we are.
Authentic, creative, loving, compassionate, vulnerable, weak, uncertain and strong.

We are all longing to go home to some place we have never been –
a place half-remembered and half-envisioned
we can only catch glimpses of from time to time. Community
Somewhere, there are people to whom we can speak with passion
without having the words catch in our throats.
Somewhere a circle of hands will open to receive us,
eyes will light up as we enter,
voices will celebrate with us whenever we come into our own power.
Community means strength that joins our strength to do the work that needs to be done.
Arms to hold us when we falter. A circle of healing. 
A circle of friends.                        Someplace where we can be free.
-Starhawk/ The Spiral Dance

💗 What You Can Expect 💗

💗An afternoon of Friendships, Sharing, Green Fire Ceremony, Meditation, Tips and Ideas for  Self-Care
💗A Fun “Reflections of You” Mirror Collage Activity & Making a Flowered Head Wreath
💗Yummy Hors d’oeuvres and beverages provided by Prairie Bay.
💗This gathering will be a safe place for you to share, talk, connect and heal with other like-minded women.
💗Every participant will get a Goddess Mini Swag Bag!
💗COST : $50.00 per person (Adults Only Please)

We’d love to have YOU join us for some “Me-Time,” sisterhood  and celebration of the Goddess that lives inside ALL of us.

So, there’s our afternoon!  What fun!  Click here to join us in Brainerd, Minnesota.

You can also find more on my website.  If you like, follow updates on Facebook.

So … I think my sparkly new fangled computer and I are clicking well together!   I find trusting Spirit, helps me to be brave.  Breathing helps, too.  My intention is bringing women together to shine in their love, beauty and divinity.  Collectively our strength and goodness ripples out into the world, making it better and brighter … because  that’s what we Goddesses do!

With a Grateful Heart,

Namaste

Debbie

Dancing to the beat of my heart …

Life doesn’t always play out like I think it will.  After a whirlwind romance, reality started its dance.  It’s hard when the rhythm and the beat aren’t synchronized.  No matter what my head and the heart wanted to say, my body was like an opposing magnet, saying “pay attention”.  The body has an uncanny sense of truth.  It doesn’t lie … “trust your gut” is what I tell clients … it just took me a while to practice what I preach.

The whirlwind romance is over.  I’ve learned alot about myself. I’ve had to think about what my life purpose is at this point in my life … and honor it.  Being true to myself, has opened a stream of music, that has me dancing and my feet tapping to the beat of my heart!  I love it!  Ideas are flowing, get-togethers are planned, energy is clear and bright as sunlight sparkles in the autumn air.

Someday, perhaps, I’ll have a partner to dance with …

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For now, Life has me encircled with incredible people, dancing, clapping and holding each other up, celebrating the gift we are to each other.

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How fortunate I am.

 

 

Sweetness of friendship

Friendships begin at a young age … expanding out from the familiarity of family, into a new realm of the unknown.  Yet, thankfully, when we trust this unknown, our circle of people grows … our circle of friends.

Friendship is both tears and laughter.  The silly little things that can get us laughing so hard we pee our pants, and have tears streaming down our faces, as we clutch our stomachs and catch our breath, to losing someone we love and our hearts are breaking.  It’s the sweetness of the friendship = love, that makes it so.  Would we trade it in?  Wish we never had shared the laughter and the tears, for however long it lasted?  Not me.  You?

Friendship is being vulnerable and willing to trust.  That breaking heart thing?  Yep, anytime we open ourselves up … expose who we are with all our warts and loveliness, we let the light of who we are shine and we’re accepted and loved – YAY – or not, we’re judged for our warts – BOO – (but then it’s not true friendship, is it?) … our hearts can break.  Would we rather not be vulnerable for fear of someone’s judgement of us?  Or, perhaps, trust and be gifted with a most amazing friendship when we’re recognized for the  light within us rather than the warts?  I’ll go for it.  You?

There’s an ebb and flow with friendships.  Sometimes we give.  Sometimes we take. Sometimes we’re the student.  Sometimes we’re the teacher.  We live, grow, and change throughout the years.  Sometimes, as we grow, we take a turn that our friends do not. Then, it’s letting go and trusting the new path will bring new friends.  Sweet.  It’s how life works.  Trust me!

Friendship doesn’t cost a penny … yet … friendship is priceless.   Let’s celebrate our friendships, let’s laugh and share wonderful times together.   Let’s experience the little things in the dew, and tomorrow our hearts will awake in the morning, refreshed.

Friendship.

How sweet it is.