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The Summer of Love and Death Continues … Dad is Dying

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Dad’s last visit to Camp Confidence

With some of the ‘Fambly’ …

And Jeff Olson and Mary Harder – They are part of our Heart Fambly & Camp Confidence 

The Sunday after Mom’s funeral, some of us kids were sitting at the breakfast table with Dad.  He cleared his throat, which he did when he was nervous, and told us, he was not going into the clinic in the morning for dialysis.  He was done.  He was tired.  He was ready to die.  He would follow Mom to heaven.  We knew this was coming, but, like my brother Patrick shared with me later – it was like a bomb going off in our hearts.

There were 5 things he wanted before he died:

  1. Be at son Mike and Dawn’s Wedding – Yes, we had a wedding in between Mom and Dad’s dying.  I was Officiating and Fambly was planning this celebration, too.
  2. To talk with Father Walsh and ask him to do his funeral (and convert us kids back to the Catholic Church!).
  3.  Connect with Mike O’Rourke from the Brainerd Dispatch, who had been asking to do one last interview with Dad about founding Camp Confidence/Confidence Learning Center.
  4. Take a bunch of the Fambly out to Camp Confidence for one. last. look.  Sharing memories and stories … Wow, THAT was a beautiful day.
  5. A BBQ Rib Dinner with all the sides!  (And his favorite cocktail – or two).

Whew …

Later that day, I took a break and headed to my apartment across the yard.  I needed quiet meditation time, and asked God for wisdom and support, as I was feeling exhausted and over-whelmed.

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Deep into meditation, I heard the word ‘Ezekiel’ … in a soft whisper.  Minutes later, again ‘Ezekiel’, and the 3rd time, in a normal speaking voice.

I opened my eyes … expecting to see someone – well, Ezekiel – but I didn’t.

I sat quietly … Ezekiel … hmmm.  I felt a comfort – something I really needed – Thanks, God … Thanks, Ezekiel – whoever you are.  I trusted the comfort I felt and was grateful for it.

I didn’t know anything about Ezekiel, so I looked him up!  Ezekiel is a Hebrew priest and prophet of the sixth century B.C. His name means: God will strengthenThat was reassuring – I needed all the strength and support I could get.

The next day, I walked across the yard to spend time with Dad and visit with Fambly.  He was in his recliner in the living room – “Hi, Daddy-o!” I said, with a kiss on his cheek.  “Hi Deb!  Say, I’ve been thinking and we’ve got to get my funeral put together, will you help me?”  I didn’t well up in tears, I remembered Ezekiel: God will strengthen.  I didn’t gasp.  God will strengthen.  Dad was clear with what he wanted, and asked me for help.  I took a breath, God will strengthen, and let it out.  I smiled and said, “You bet!  Let’s do this!”

The priest was called, the local parish was notified and the funeral home was given a ‘heads-up’.  Special people came to visit.  Once again, stories and laughter filled the house.  Wedding plans were being delegated, Dad still was beating Patrick at cribbage … We kids agreed to have Jake contact a neighbor in the cities who made pine boxes for his casket.  (I/We had suggested Dad make us Pine Boxes for Christmas Gifts, as every year he had to come up with a new idea for all 7 of us kids … Mom nixed that idea!)  Even though Dad was dying, there was a lighter air and not so sad as when Mom was crossing over.  He was very ready to go.

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There came a day we thought he was going off to bed and sleep his way to heaven. We took turns being with him.  I remember him opening his eyes hours later and looked at me, kind of confused … I smiled and said, “Hi there … Nope, Daddy-o, you’re not in heaven, yet!”  Then, he asked if there were any ribs left?!  Seriously, he never followed protocol, so why start now!!??

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Dad’s time had come – for real this time.

We called everyone together and gathered around.  I climbed in bed with him, Patrick shared ‘The Lord is My Shepard‘ by heart, and then we started to sing his favorite songs.  We got to Edelweiss and Dad took his last breath – we thought.  I had my hand on his heart – it had stopped.  Then he opened his eyes and took one LOUD BIG last breath – we all JUMPED!! – Jake boisterously started back in song, “Blossom of snow may you bloom and grow, bloom and grow forever …..”  (Some things you never forget).  I started laughing and crying at the same time.  Dad was a kidder and a prankster – and he ‘got us good’ on that one.  I could see Mom taking his arm as he was chuckling on his way, saying, “Ok, Dick, that’s enough now, come along!”

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It was one awesome funeral!

We were wrapped in Holy, Precious Moments as we shared this time together.

Fambly.

Thanks Mom and Dad … Without you … We would not BE FAMBLY.

With a Grateful Heart.

Your Daughter,

Debbie

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A Summer of Love & Death – Mom

It was a tough summer for our ‘Fambly’.

It was a summer of Love.

Both my folks were dying …

Let me share about our Mom …

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Mom, Dad & The Big Kids

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We, Fambly = Mom & Dad, 7 Siblings/Spouses/Significant Others/Children & Little Children, filled the consult room, waiting for the oncologist to talk with us and share Mom’s diagnosis.  It was the day after Mother’s Day.  Apprehension, faith and love were holding us together like a superglue.  Mom had lung cancer.  The wonderful oncologist, tenderly held Mom’s hands, looked her directly in the eyes, and said with her permission, Hospice would be contacted that day.  It took our breath away.

Life is real.

In 2 months, she was gone.

Before she left … We sang to her, shared silly stories … maybe a secret or two.  We painted our toenails with her.  She had a dress to show us girls – she hoped wouldn’t be ‘too fancy’ for her funeral!  The rosary was prayed.  We cried.  Lots and LOTS of tears.  A Priest came to visit.  Mom and my little brother, Jake, planned the music for her funeral – so special. (He was amazing singing through. it. all.  Making Mom proud ’till the very end!!).

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In the middle of the night, she left us.  We were with her.  Dad made it very clear he wanted to be with her at her last breath.

Everything became still. 

Silent. 

Peace-filled.

Before we called the funeral home, we made a Fambly Circle. (Every night after supper, Mom would have us go around the table and say something we were thankful for.)  In our circle of love for Mom, we each shared a story, or something we were grateful for, or got in trouble with/lesson learned – ’cause life is real with Mom.  More tears, then laughter!!  After we shared, we started singing some of her favorite songs – someone(s) got out their phones to get all the words right!  We ended with Silent Night … the harmony so precious.

 

It was a silent, holy night …

We love you, Mom!

(She’s still dropping feathers to say ‘Hello’!)

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With Love and a Grateful Heart,

Your Daughter,

Debbie

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“Skippy” … A Soul Connection

 

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I’m sharing stories I’ve personally experienced with connections to Spirit and the affirmations they bring into my life and the lives of clients.  In doing so, I hope you recognize ways God/Spirit is connecting with you.  Little signs of intuition, a premonition, a whisper or a nudge, a sign of synchronicity, a dream … there are many ways we are shown signs that can protect us, reassure us, or bring us peace.

I understand – ‘Oh, that’s just your imagination!’, ‘Don’t go there ….’, ‘Are you kidding me?’!  I’ve thought those things, too.  Over the years, these connections have become a part of my life.  Sometimes, a part of someone else’s life ….

Skippy …

Before a client comes, I settle into quiet meditation/prayer.  It helps me bring into greater awareness of Spirit/God and the client coming in.  One early afternoon, after centering/quiet time with a client, I began my energy session with her on the massage table.  I had barely started, and in my mind’s eye, there was a smallish brown mutt of a dog that was jumping on my leg and then jumping and skipping around the table – one energetic little mutt, for sure.  Sometimes, he jumped high enough to reach the top of the massage table – and did his best to distract me.  I was just beginning to be brave enough to share things I ‘saw’ with clients – but that day, I wasn’t brave enough and didn’t say anything to her about it.  We finished our time together and she left.

A few weeks later, she came in for another session.  Guess what?  The little brown mutt of a dog was back.  I knew from the last time, this little guy was going to be persistent.  It was obvious, he wanted to be seen AND acknowledged.  I took a breath, and told my client I had something to share with her and she could take it or leave it – no worries there!  Then I told her about this little brown mutt of a dog, skipping around the table like crazy.  She burst into tears.  She shared her story – a bit of it summed up here – When she was a little girl growing up, she had a little brown mutt.  They loved each other to pieces.  That dog went with her, everywhere.  He listened to her stories, he knew her friends and family, he knew her secrets, he knew her best of anyone.  He was her faithful companion, indeed.  And …

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… His name was Skippy.

I laughed out loud!  Skippy – of course!!

She was so happy to know he was there with her.  For the rest of the session, Skippy sat calmly on the floor.  No more jumping and skipping around.  There was just a wonderful sense of contentment and quiet joy – for both of them.

Skippy never made his presence known to me after that.  And, it’s ok.  It was the first time an animal had ‘come through’ for me.  I’m so grateful, I threw fear out the window. It was important I shared seeing Skippy with my client.

It was a gift for all 3 of us.

Skippy was a Soul Connection for her.  Yes, he is her dog.  And, it’s ok …

Spirit/God doesn’t limit love and connections with only people!

As I’ve shared in the past, stories connect us, and help us realize how amazing life is on so many levels.  You may get nudges, or hear the whispers of Spirit/God, you may not.  I don’t know when/if I will get insight, or a word, or image on any given day, week, month. It’s ok.  We’re all here, sharing the journey … quirky and amazing as it is!

Blessings and Love,

Namaste

Debbie

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Premonitions/Intuition … Whispers of Spirit

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I was 14 years old when I had my first experience with premonitions or huge intuitive insight.  I remember the exact moment it happened.  I was playing on a hill by the lakeside with my little sister, Anna.  I remember the bump in the hill, the dress and sweater she was wearing and her laughter.  She was 20 months old, and after 4 brothers … it was such joy to have a little sister!  In a flash there was a knowing … she was going to drown … and the flash was gone.  Her smiling face and twinkling eyes at that moment, are embedded in my heart forever.  It scared me.  I held her close.  It was not going to happen – I was going to make sure she would always be safe.  We were mindful of living on the lake and would give a shout out to Mom – “Heading down to the lake!”  “Heading to the dock!”  “Tossing a line out – gonna catch some sunnies!”  “Going to jump in and cool off!”  It was part of lake life, keeping in touch with heading down to the lake.

Anna did drown.  Less than a month later.  No matter how attentive I was, how I watched her like a hawk … it didn’t matter, she was gone.  The pain felt, was devastating.  Even writing this … all the emotions, the smells, the air, the sounds of wailing, come back in an instant.  I felt responsible.  No matter the compassion and understanding my folks gave me, trying to explain it was an accident, nobody’s fault – no blame.  I loved my folks for that, although it took a long time for me to see it their way.

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What I came to realize … is there is a bigger plan.  Anna’s plan was 20 months.  Pure joy and love given to all of us.  Then, because of Anna dying,  our sister, Kyung, came into our lives.  We adopted her from Korea at nearly one year of age, with the last of the siblings, little brother Jake, born a month later.  Here I share a bit about the amazing woman she is!

What I believe about premonitions and intuition … For me, they are a way for Spirit/God to give me a ‘heads-up’.  I think subconsciously, having this premonition or intuitive insight, helped me to survive.  It has also let me know, there are only certain things in life we have control over.  I did not have control over Anna dying.  I only have control over how I choose to see this event – her life – in my life.  I choose to see her as a gift.  And her gift to us … Kyung!

I am open to the ‘heads-up’, quiet knowing Spirit/God is willing to share with me.  Sometimes, it is fun … I’ll share more next time!

As an Energy Worker, the 6th Chakra is your Intuition, the center of your forehead sometimes referred to as your 3rd Eye, your 6th Sense.  Meditation, prayer, listening is a way to hear the “Whispers of Spirit/God”, guiding  and supporting you in love …

What have been some premonitions or intuitive knowings you have experienced?

Wishing you gentle ‘Whispers of Spirit’.

Namaste

Debbie

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That Odd Little Word … Chakra!

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Wheels of Energy Throughout Our Body

In my last blog, I shared how I came to be an Energy Worker, and talked about wheels of energy called Chakras flowing (or not) in our bodies.  I realized, when I first heard about Chakras, I was taken aback because it came from ancient Hindu, Buddhism and Taoism wisdom and teachings …  Far removed from my upbringing as a Catholic and very foreign to me.  Sometimes, we fear what we don’t understand, and sometimes we’re told it’s wrong to delve into things that don’t fit into the line of particular religious teachings.  In that respect, my limited understanding is – it opens the door for evil to enter – it is not ‘Of God’ – ‘The bible says …’ – ‘The catechism says …’.  All shared in good faith and protection of one’s soul – and I have had my share of comments, concerns and anonymous letters to protect my soul and save me from the perils of hell.  I understand where these kind souls are coming from … and it’s ok.

We are each responsible for our own walk in life.  My walk has led me, through my quiet meditation time with God/Spirit, to an awareness of these energy centers, called Chakras.  I feel them, sense them in myself and in others.

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Our bodies are filled with energy – everything miraculously working together to carry us and our Spirit through life.  Besides our bodies, we have thoughts, emotions and the Spiritual part of ourselves, that make up our whole “Being”.  All of this is energy.  It’s ebbing and flowing every minute of every day.  We can sense when someone comes into a room, we can often sense the mood they are in.  No words needed.  We feel their energy.  When someone leaves, or company goes home after a gathering, or someone dies, we feel the emptiness.  When someone is suffering, we can often feel their pain – and they may be miles away.  It is their energy.  We send them good thoughts, we send them prayers, we send good vibes, we hold them in our hearts.  This is energy flowing between us.  Soul connections.  Heart connections.  Spirit connections.  For me it’s God who’s got this all going.  Divine.  Sacred.  Universal.  Miraculous.  Precious.  Love.  Along with … Pain.  Suffering.  Loss.  Fear.  Anger. Control.  Mistakes.  Forgiveness.  And more Love.  All of this carries energy.  Lots and lots of energy.

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Sometimes energy flows and sometimes it gets stuck.  When energy gets stuck, we don’t feel well, do we?  The stuck energy can affect any one of our organs, how we breathe, how we sleep, and how we communicate with others.  We can feel grounded, safe, secure, or float-y, not able to trust or focus.  We can feel creative or blah,  confident or insecure – not able/or willing to trust our gut.  We can love and receive love, or close ourselves off from love, because we don’t want to be hurt.  We can speak our truth – or not – for fear of what others might feel, think, or say about us, or to us.  We might have flashes of intuition, where we just understand something with no need for conscious explanations, simply, a quiet knowing.  We’re open – or not – to Spirit/God and the support and guidance we are given as we walk this path called Life.  This …. all of this … is energy.  Impacting our Chakras.  Not scary.  Just real Life.  We live with these ebb and flow energies every day.  In our own unique ways.  Because that’s how we roll, we were created as individuals and no one walks our path but us.  This is the energy I work with my clients = Life.

Wisdom is wisdom.  It carries Truth through time.  Past, present and future, wisdom is supportive and thought provoking.  Wisdom came with creation – call it ancient – and will follow us through the end of time.  I look at the goodness it brings, the support it provides and the lessons it teaches.  I am grateful I was open to the confirmation I was feeling with my clients and their energies – and the link and understanding of the 7 Charkas.   I’m glad I listened to God/Spirit and was brave enough to walk through that door!  The blessings that have unfolded over the years, are countless.

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Here’s my sense of the 7 basic Chakras – Energy Centers in your body and the wisdom carried with them.  I’m not going into details with this … this is a blog, not a book!!  ; )

  1. Root Chakra – base of your spine – supports your basic needs – food, clothing, shelter – security, trust and stability. Color/Red
  2. Sacral – below your belly button and above your pubic bone – sexuality and creative expression.  Color/Orange.
  3. Solar Plexus – stomach – personal power – trusting your gut.  Color/Yellow
  4.  Heart – bridges our body with our mind, emotions and Spirit.  It’s our love and the connections we have with each other and a conduit to healing.  Color/Green
  5. Throat – communicating and speaking our Truth.  Color/Blue/Turquoise.
  6. 3rd Eye – Center of forehead.  Intuition/Awareness.  Color/Indigo Blue
  7. Crown – Top of head.  Spiritual Connection to God, ourselves and others.  Color/Purple

I like pictures … so here you go!  Sitting, standing, walking, skipping, sleeping … you don’t need to be sitting yogi style to recognize the energy of Chakras in your body!

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The beauty of you.  The beauty of all of us.

We all want to trust – ourselves and others.  We are sexual beings with creative juices running.  We practice the wisdom Life teaches us, and trust our gut to keep us from making a wrong move.  We desire love, give love, share love and with love, there is healing.  We communicate in many ways, trying our best to speak our truth.  Intuition is a gift – we all have – it’s trusting and practicing it!  Spirituality is our blanket, encompassing our Being while we’re here on earth, listening to the wisdom, affirmation and guidance God gives us and receiving all embracing Love.

People have asked about being Catholic – I’m not a practicing Catholic, any more.  I’m grateful for the foundation and faith I have because of being raised Catholic.  Honestly, I’m not playing within their many rules, so it’s best to be me … and continue my walk with the Love, compassion and faith I share, knowing God is present – always.  For those concerned about my eternal well-being … I’ve nearly died, and through that time, there was clarity and peace.  I know, no matter what, it’s all ok … God’s love and being true to who I am, while I’m still here … is what matters!

And so … I continue to enjoy my clients, my time with them, and the wonderful things that unfold.  If you feel off-kilter, seek a recommended Energy Worker in your area.  Personal references are the best.  Trust your gut when meeting someone new, if you are not comfortable with them, it’s ok to say so and leave. (Really – this is for ANY situation in life!!)

Thank you for following along with me!  I hope you have a better understanding about Chakras and Energy.  Until next time …  Wishing you peace and joy.

Namaste

Debbie

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How I came to be an Energy Worker

 

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The power of touch …

Cultivating Quiet Healing From Within Since 1990

I remember, nearly 30 years ago, when I was going through Massage School … the teacher had spent some of our class time talking about energy and Chakras.  I was fine with all we had been learning and training and practicing on, until this odd word and topic came up.  Chakra origin is from from Sanskrit meaning  ‘wheel or circle’.   We have 7 main wheels or circles of energy in our bodies (Chakras) – from the base of our spine to the top/crown of our head.  Mind you, I came from a strict, traditional Roman Catholic upbringing, and anything to do with ancient traditions from the Hindu Religion, Chinese Taoism and Buddhism was strictly taboo.  I made up my mind, I would leave all the Chakra stuff behind and focus entirely on the bodywork of massage therapy.

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Back then, people still thought of massage therapy in more of the ‘flashing red light’ mentality.  Oh my … that led to some interesting encounters!   I spent the first 3 years of my practice educating clients on the benefits of therapeutic massage to help with stress management, pain management, increased flexibility and boosting their immune systems.

I was/am highly empathetic and can feel pain clients are experiencing.  In the quiet time working with them, I was becoming very much aware of the heat that would flow through my hands, and at times, there would be a feeling of something ‘blocked’ with their body.  I would spend focused time (and prayer … Catholic girl, remember), on the blocked area, hands hot with heat … and there would be a shift – and the block was gone.  I would ask clients what what happening in their life.  I was aware of the physical part of them, and also gave focus to their thoughts, emotions, and Spiritual well-being.  There seemed to be connections with the energy they had flowing or blocked and what I was feeling.

I was beginning to notice nudges – intuition – whispers of Spirit/God – dreams – to ‘pay attention’.  Circles and wheels.  Circles and wheels.  Then it clicked: Chakras.

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Hmmmm ….

I realized I was being led to look deeper into the ancient wisdom of these energy wheels in our bodies.  I was also realizing God as I knew God to be, was bigger than any box I could dream of … and the lid to that box was blown off … up into the Universe somewhere.  I was opening my heart and Spirit to what ancient wisdom had to say about energy, circles, wheels, health, balance, flow … body, mind and Spirit.

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And when I did – everything clicked!  Chakras made sense to me.  They affirmed the awareness I was experiencing with clients.  The energy we have in our bodies is miraculous.  It helps me with the energy work I now do with clients.  The power of compassionate, loving touch, brings peace.  The questions I may ask, or the clarification I may offer, is in tune with what I am picking up with their energies – their Chakras.

And … I still pray and God is still present!  I keep listening to the whispers of Spirit/God and do my best to ‘pay attention’!  I’m grateful for the continued blessings clients receive and the energies of peace and love that follow them out the door.

With a Grateful Heart,

Namaste

Debbie

www.debendres.com

 

 

Self-Care Helpers & Love

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We’re coming into the month of February – the month of LOVE.

As shared on my Facebook Page, touch, self-care and loving kindness for ourselves, is often difficult to embrace. Guilt, time and money can often play into the scenario.

A few years back, my friend, Becky Flansburg, introduced me to February as being a Goddess Month, focusing on all the lovely things we can do to embrace, love and honor the incredible women we ARE.  Isn’t it a great idea?!

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As one of my goals in 2019 is self-care, I’m boosting up ways to show that love to myself … and be willing to ask for – and receive that loving kindness.

I am receiving regular Chiropractic Care from Dr. Jim Davis.  He has helped me immensely with my low back healing, after my L5 decided to wake me up last fall.  Great Chiropractor!  Now, I go in for maintenance – no low back pain!!

My friend, Pam, is a great reflexologist and does Reiki.  When she had offered to work on me, I was nervous, but mostly excited.  Nervous, because I didn’t know how I was going to sit anywhere for more than 5 minutes without pain in my low back.  Low and behold … she had an anti-gravity chair!  I was amazed and ever-so-grateful.  I floated in peace, while receiving my treatment.  The skill, energy and love she poured into me was so healing.  I continue to see her on a regular basis.  Because of her, I realized I could also use an anti-gravity chair for my clients, (no bending for my back), and it opened a new door of nurturing for my clients and me!

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My Anti-Gravity Chair

In my previous post, I had mentioned seeing a skilled, new acupuncturist in our Brainerd Lakes Area.  I had my first treatment with Julienne Gienger, LAC at Better Days Acupuncture, last week.  After listening, and tuning into the various heart rates w/organs in my body.  She knew exactly what the first focus of treatment was needed for me.  I don’t like needles.  So, for those of you who don’t either … the needles are so fine, you barely feel them, if at all.  AND you are flat on your back, so worries about fainting!! I didn’t count the number of needles she put in.  I focused on the music and my breathing, and let her do her energy work.  I appreciated the spot-on insight she gave to me – physically and emotionally, with regards to the steps of treatment.  She also included cupping, helping with blood flow, inflammation … and feels like a deep tissue massage.  To understand, it’s better for you to watch this video of her, done by Dan Hegstad.  (His business, Easy Street Productions, will help your business grow!)  I have my next treatment in a couple of weeks, and really look forward to it.

These are the self-care pieces of love I’m giving to myself on a regular basis.  If you live in the Brainerd Lakes Area, and are interested in what Dr. Jim, Pam or Julienne’ can do for you, I encourage you to contact them.

They are my Self-Care Helpers!

Sharing the Love …

Namaste,

Debbie

 

I’m “Allowing” 2019 To Be …

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Filled with more ease …

Less trying to make things work.  (It can be exhausting and when it doesn’t work out the way I planned, disappointment sets in. Allowing is a gentle way of letting go of control.)  I’m going to do my best with intentions and actions and allow all to unfold for my highest good.  Yes, there will be lessons to learn!  It’s ok, as some of those lessons will be life adventures and surprises … I wonder what they will be?!

In 2019 I will Allow …

… More time for PLAY.  Getting out with friends, making new friends, allowing time in my day/week to spend time with people who fill me up, share their wisdom and enjoy moments together.  Things like theater, art, music, heart to heart conversations, sharing meals out and meals in, laughter and tears.  Walks and talks.

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… My heart to be open to DATING.  That goes along with PLAY, I think, plus perfect order and Divine timing!

… I will allow ART in more minutes = hours – and the creative process it brings through Spirit.

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… My PASSION WITH CLIENTS to continue growing and unfolding, bringing to them (and me), healing, compassion, spiritual growth, wisdom, Truth, love and light.

… Time for NURTURING SELF-CARE.  Schedule regular massages (Check/DONE! Yay!) and Chiropractic adjustments.  Look into acupuncture @ Better Days Acupuncture in Brainerd.  I hear Julienne’ Gienger, LAC is amazing.  Plus the simple things … like gentle morning stretches, qigong, walks and talks, hikes and exploring.  Nature is very nurturing to me.

… Continued MORNING MEDITATION AND JOURNAL time.  I call it my “Morning coffee with God”.  No matter what – it keeps me grounded.

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… Enjoyable time WRITING on a regular basis.  Mostly, here, blogging, and Instagram.  If it isn’t enjoyable, nothing flows.  So allowing my brain to realize this time is filled with magical moments to see words unfold into something that can connect with others is magical, indeed.

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I find, over the years, choosing a Word of the Year has helped me create more in my life.  This year my hope is to create more ease – and trust Spirit/God, Angels and Guides will be right alongside me every minute of this New Year.

Do you have a word for 2019?  I’d love to hear what it is!

Happy New Year!

Blessings and Love,

Namaste

Debbie

www.debendres.com

 

 

Here’s the Thing … Collage Wisdom #3

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It’s so easy to worry.  Look back with regrets.  Woulda, coulda, shoulda.  The best thing about looking back, is the wisdom I’ve gained to move forward.  It’s true – every situation has had Divine Timing.  Mind you, I did not/do not care BEING in certain life events, but when they were most difficult, Earth Angels came in at just the right moments.  They helped me walk through tough stuff with divorce, depression and single parenting.  I’ve learned much, going through the muck.  I’m stronger than I ever thought I’d be.  I’m braver.  The Universe does know exactly what it is doing and an incredible teacher.  I have to take ownership in playing my role in it.  (Not scoring 5 Stars is a reality check!  Yes, I’ll admit to less than stellar performances.)  Breathing helps, every single time!  My asking for help, being willing to change my way of thinking, being adventurous enough to try new things … like dating, for example, were keys to opening doors to new life … and believe happiness would greet me.

20181017_063303_HDR It did!

The Universe is still playing with me on the dating thing … none-the-less, my life is filled with happiness, because there are lots of doors in life to open, and I’m twisting a lot of knobs!!  Not all of them open.  I respect that now.  I don’t try to bust or jiggle them open anymore.  I’ve noticed …  light, from a door cracked open in the dark – is amazingly bright.  Look at the stars and the moon on a partly cloudy night – see how the light ebbs and flows with banks of clouds, or wisps … as the earth faithfully turns.  It’s taking time to notice a door is actually open … and being willing to walk through it and … play!

20181211_141700_HDR Yes!

Blessings and Love,

Namaste

Debbie

www.debendres.com

 

 

 

Here’s the Thing … Collage Wisdom Insight #1

Oldways

I find myself, among a number of friends … experiencing life change nudges.  Intuitively, we know something is coming.  I think it’s Spirit/God’s way of giving us a heads-up.  We sense a ‘Pay Attention‘ tap on the shoulder, bump/thump on the head, or in my case, L-5 putting me in a frozen, ‘now I’ve got your attention’, pose … because I chose not to listen to the quiet whispers, taps and thumps, mostly because of fear.  Fear of changing out a career (Certified Massage Therapist & Energy Worker for 28 years).  Loss of assured income.  Losing relationships.  Being my own boss.  I’m very good at taking care of everything.  Doing it all – whew.

It was interesting, when the pain was manageable, to note it was on my left side – energetically, the feminine side, the receiving side … being vulnerable, asking for help, nurturing me, being soft and gentle.  Quiet reflection, led me to acknowledge, my taking care of everything and doing it all (male energy/right side) was overpowering, leading to my life not being in balance.  My soft, gentle side, needed me to stop doing massage work.  (Deep breath … breathe ….) Now … it was taking time to process this part of my life.  This time of change.  I decided to create a collage to help me approach things that were coming through with meditation and journaling.

I call it Collage Wisdom!

Old ways won’t open new doors.  It’s true.  Life is filled with opportunities.  It’s opening new ways of thinking … yes, new thoughts are necessary! Any age, any decade!  Time to allow dreams to filter in … What if ____ ?? How about ___ ?? It is time to admit: We know stuff. (Thank you, Janice!).  We are a mixed bag of talents.  We are not one dimensional. We are multi-dimensional and that can be what ever we choose it to be.  Yes, fear is involved.  So is bravery.  We become stronger because we are going through the fear and realize how flipping awesome we are.  Believe this with me!  Create a grand door, a cabin door, a gnome door, a magical door, a real-life door …  put your hand on the doorknob, I will too.  Let’s twist it open – ready, set, GO …

Today is a new day.

More to come!

Blessings and Love,

Namaste

Debbie